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Seven Days a Week

January 29, 2007 at 1:25pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

I ended up working all weekend, right up until 11:30pm last night. I even missed out on dinner at my parents’ house last night. I don’t particularly enjoy missing out on the family time that locking oneself in one’s office requires, but I do love pushing myself away from the keyboard at the end and saying “I’m finished, and it’s good.”

This weekend’s project involved developing some website member management solutions for a client in Canada. (One of two clients from Canada, actually. Apparently the “Eh Team” from up north has a thing for Nebraskans.) The project was nice in that it was difficult but doable, and I learned from it some lessons that I can apply to future projects. As it turns out I underbid the project (by about 30%), but with just a little work I should be able to repackage some of the elements into a sellable product to more than make up the difference.

I’m not crazy about working seven days a week, but it’s going to take that kind of effort for a while if I want my web development stuff to go anywhere. And I do. I really, really do. I would love to be able to do this stuff full-time…

A Girl Like Me

January 26, 2007 at 6:30pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

This video, “A Girl Like Me”, is making the rounds right now. It’s a short (7 minutes) documentary by Kiri Davis, a high school student.

There are a lot of things I still don’t “get” about race and racial identity in the United States. I can’t wrap my head around some of the girls’ comments in the film, for example. But several parts of the film are intriguing, and I can’t help but think about how it all relates to Robert.

Robert is On the Move

January 22, 2007 at 1:30pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

Kids really do grow up fast.

Robert has two teeth now, both on the bottom. He hasn’t really figured out what they’re to be used for, but in the absence of upper teeth that’s not a big surprise. It’s going to be weird seeing him with teeth after so many months of toothless grins. And no more letting him gnaw on my fingers. I’m not raising a cannibal.

Robert is also really figuring out how to utilize his mobility. First it was “Ooh, look! The dog’s food and water!” The dog was not amused. Now, fortunately, he gets around to a number of different destinations. He even (sort of) comes when you call him. I plan to enjoy that as much as possible in this short window when he actually thinks that “go to dad when called” is a fun game. I figure that’ll wear off any day now.

Robert is sleeping all night pretty much routinely these days. The ol’ Ferber method—rather, our interpretation of it—seemed to work pretty well. Too bad we didn’t start it earlier.

I don’t think I mentioned yet that we have our finalization court date. February 13th is the big day, exactly 8 months after we first met him (and he pooped all over me) in Boston. Mom and dad are very excited. Robert has, of course, been “ours” since day 1, but it will be nice to make it official. I can’t imagine what it must be like for people who spend this much time (or more) with a child, only to have the adoption fail for some reason. Makes me shudder.

Here are some relatively recent Robbie photos:

Robert getting ready to open a gift

Robert hanging out on the floor

Robert in his carseat, wearing his giant snowsuit

Robert at the coffee table

No Kidding

January 19, 2007 at 1:20pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

I completely understand why the members of No Kidding would want a social group comprised of people who don’t have kids. Before I was a parent, I noticed that parents’ conversations always tend to drift toward the topic of their children. Now that I’m a parent, I’ve noticed that, yep, my conversations do just that. I probably annoy the beans out of many of my non-parent friends with my yammering about “Robbie did this” or “Robbie did that”. It must be difficult at times being intentionally childless in a community that generally doesn’t “get” why somebody would do such a thing. I’m sure intentionally childless couples have to come up with some of the same sorts of lines to respond to annoying “Why don’t you want kids?” questions that The Missus and I have come up with in regard to Robbie’s adoption.

Are any of you in an intentionally childless relationship? Do you find that folks around here don’t “get” your decision?

Those Eyes

January 18, 2007 at 1:30pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

I’m on daddy duty with a sick kid today. Doesn’t look like anything serious, but we’ll probably try to get in to the doctor this afternoon.

It’s easy for me to tell when Robert doesn’t feel well. It’s all in his eyes. And right now his eyes say “Oy, I feel like poo.”

At this point I can’t tell if it’s going to be an easy day with a slightly tired Robbie, or a tough day with lots of whining and coughing. So far the latter. Poor kid.

Breakthrough!

January 15, 2007 at 4:30pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

Robert had a big breakthrough this weekend—literally. After months of saying “He must be teething; I’m sure we’ll see a tooth soon”, a tooth has finally popped up. It’s actually not as dramatic as that, since you can only feel the very top of the tooth. But hey, parents get excited over the little things.

In other Robert news, he has learned that playing in the dog’s water dish can be a blast. Guess we’re going to have to find a new place to put Daisy’s food…

Ferberizing Robert: An Update

January 3, 2007 at 6:35pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

A couple weeks ago I wrote that The Missus and I planned to use (our interpretation of) the Ferber Method to help Robert sleep through the night. Things were going well initially, but then Robert got an ear infection. We halted the program temporarily.

Now, though, we’re back on track. In fact, this morning’s 5:30am wake-up represented the third straight all-nighter for Robert. He goes down around 8:00pm and wakes up between 5:00am and 6:00am.

I won’t go so far as to say Robert is “cured” of his middle-of-the-night wakings. Only time will tell if that’s true. (And even then, there will always be the occasional 2:00am waking.) I will, however, say that having a plan and sticking to it makes nighttime wakings incalculably more manageable. The Missus and I knew that all along, but we were, as so many parents are, hesitant nonetheless. I guess it’s the stress of listening to a baby cry, combined with the discomfort associated with changing “the way we’ve always done it”.

I’ll let you know if things suddenly take a sour turn. Cross your fingers!

Reflections on Family Time

January 3, 2007 at 6:30pm By: Mr. Wilson Posted in 625 Elm Street

This is my first day back at work since December 15. Here is a look back at some of the things that happened in that time:

  • For the second time ever, I completely shaved my head. I even managed not to remove large chunks of skin like I did last time. The main difference this time is that I plan to keep it shaved for a good while. So far I’ve only noticed one annoyance: everybody seems to think it is their duty to inform the bald guy that he “really should wear a hat” on a cold day.
  • Robbie fought off his first ear infection like a trooper. It really sucked seeing him not feel well. He’s normally such an active, bubbly, friendly kid. While he was sick he hardly smiled or laughed, he didn’t babble very much, and he didn’t really want to play. Blah.
  • Feeling in a grumpy, un-Christmasy mood? Spend Christmas with babies, boxes, wrapping paper, and bows. That’s all you need.
  • Robert changed so much in the past couple weeks. He’s starting to figure out that crawling thing, slowly but surely. He has always been a stander, but now he really loves to stand. He learned how to pull himself up to standing. (The first time he did that was in his crib. Quite a surprise to The Missus when she walked in.) He has even learned how to walk, very very slowly, while pushing a little cart thingy. He’s seven months old and he can walk himself across the room. Crazy! Still no teeth, though. Just lots of drool.
  • Robert is entering the phase in which he freaks out when mom leaves the room. When dad leaves the room it’s like, “Hey, that goofy guy left. Oh well”. But when mom leaves the room, it’s “Dear God, where did she go?! Mom! Mom! Come back!” Which, of course, really makes The Missus eager to go back to work. Fortunately he chills out after a few seconds. For now.
  • I’ve been working on Lincolnite behind the scenes, along with some freelance web development work. I now have clients in Toronto, San Francisco, and upstate New York. Once I get a few items crossed off my to-do list I hope to start on some local projects.

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